So, blogger fail. I shot these photos a little bit ago and now only a few of the pieces are available. So, instead of just talking about today's look, I'm also going to talk about something that has been on my mind for years.
To preface, nothing specifically happened, it's just something that I see a lot of (with myself and other females), and wanted to share my thoughts. I actually wrote this post over a month ago and it's been sitting in my drafts. The first draft was a bit harsh, so I went back and edited. Here we are.
Why are women so judgmental toward other women? Maybe it's just me - I tend to overanalyze everything - but it seems that girls are always battling/comparing/judging other women. Aren't we in this movement of #girlpower?! I will admit, its probably way worse now that social media has such a strong presence. Being a blogger, I see and hear about the criticism that happens via social media. It's kind of disgusting.
It's not that I've gotten "judged" recently, but I have always struggled with connections with other females. Some girls I meet and have an instant connection and friendship with, and other girls, not so much. It seems like conversations flow well in more of a group setting, but otherwise it feels like there is some pre-conceived notion that women have about me. Is it the fact that I'm a blogger and post photos of myself and clothes on the daily? Maybe they feel I'm arrogant, or overly confident, or I don't know - bitchy.
A girl (now friend) once told me in high school - I really didn't like you in middle school, I just thought you were rude. And the reality? I kept to myself and wasn't the first to engage in a conversation (it's called being shy), so I was immediately labeled as "that kinda girl". She later admitted that being quiet and shy was exactly what made her feel like I was 'rude'. So I can't help but think that others feel that same way. Do y'all ever get that?
It's something that bothered me then and still bothers me now. I will be the first one to talk to the person that no one else talks to, listen, give advice - just be a genuine friend. And sometimes I feel like I'm not even given that opportunity. Not to say that I should click with every single girl, or even need to be friends with everyone (that's clearly not realistic), but it kills me when I feel like I'm put to the side simply because I keep my mouth closed and do my own thing.
The one thing I wish for myself is to be an extrovert. I wish I was the most outgoing friend who could go up and start a conversation with anyone. But I'm not. And that's okay. And what I wish for this world is that girls would break the barrier, let their guard down and realize that we're all in this together. We can all be successful. We can be decent to one another without being best friends.
Like I said in the beginning, women should empower one another. Be respectful, be happy and encouraging. Say hi and smile. A smile goes a long way.
So in turn and not just to make this about me - to anyone reading this blog post that I may have made feel this way, I'm sorry. I sure hope that I was never "that girl" too involved in myself to realize what was happening around me.
Let's keep it positive y'all. Give someone a chance in your life. You never know - that girl that you could be judging on the sideline could really be the friend you've always longed for. Or she could be exactly what you have pictured in your mind, and in that case, kudos to you for keeping your distance. Ha!
Anyone else ever feel this way, or is just me? Not even sure what sparked this post. Maybe I had a second to stop and think. Either way, just sharing some thoughts. Spread love, my friends!
OH, but before I end this post. Check out this cute necklace! It's from Ettika and I really like it. It can be paired with so many things. Kind of a basic gold necklace, but with a twist. You know? Check it out here, along with their other cute pieces. They have offered my peeps a 15% discount with code @signingsteph. Woohoo!